It ain't what you say it's the way that you say it

When parents live at separate addresses, it is often difficult to handle the arrangements for the children to spend time with each parent.

Janet Hopkins, comments:

“Working in the area of Family Law for many years, I have seen families who can make life work in its new form, and others that find it much harder. I think a lot depends on your ability to separate the different areas of concern in your own mind.”

As parents, what you can do to help your children through this confusing and worrying crisis is show them that you support their legal right to a relationship with their other parent. Be encouraging and enthusiastic when it is time for your child to go and spend time with other parent. I know you might not feel enthusiastic, but you have to let your children think you are.

It ain’t what you say, it’s the way that you say it. Instead of showing a long face when it is nearly time for your children to go to the other parent, and making snide remarks about them with a critical look on your face, show your child a bright face and speak eagerly about the visit.

Your children need to know that this is OK with you. Let them chatter happily about where they went and what they did.

You love your children, don’t you? Allow them to love their other parent and be happy and secure in that other parent’s love in return. Don’t spoil it for them. They don’t deserve to have to share your bitterness.

If, despite all your efforts, you simply cannot set up a working timetable, call us on 0116 212 1080 for Wigstonor 01858 445 480 for Market Harborough and we will help you.